What is it?
As defined by
Nathaniel Branden, psychologist and author of
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem,
self-esteem is "confidence in our
ability to think, to cope with
the basic challenges of life, and in
our right to be successful and
happy." Self-esteem also involves
how we value ourselves and how
we perceive our value to
others. Self-esteem gives us
the strength to take charge of our
lives and to grow and learn
from our experiences.
Signs of Self-Esteem
- Confidence
- Self-Motivation
- Taking responsibility for own
feelings
- Being aware of strengths
- Optimistic
- Accepting of mistakes and the
ability to learn from them
- Can trust others
- Can say "no"
- Independent yet able to
cooperate with others
Depression
Why am I so Bummed
out? I can't get motivated! I don't care anymore!
Sound familiar?
Ups and downs are part of life! Sometimes we need to regain
control through hard work and commitment. Other times it may not
be that easy! Depression in college students is very common.
Depression is a
disturbance in mood characterized by varying degrees of sadness,
disappointment loneliness, hopelessness, self-doubt, and guilt.
Most people tend to feel depressed at one time or another, but
some people may experience these feelings more frequently or with
deeper, more lasting, effects. In some cases, depression can last
for months or even years.
The most common type of
depression is what is referred to as "feeling blue" or "being in a
bad mood." These feelings are usually brief in duration and have
minimal or slight effects on normal everyday activities.
In the next level of
depression, symptoms become more intense and last for a longer
period of time. Daily activities may become more difficult...but
the individual is still able to cope with them. It is at this
level, however, that feelings of hopelessness can become so
intense that suicide may seem the only solution.
A person experiencing
severe depression may experience extreme fluctuations in moods or
even a desire for complete withdrawal from daily routine and/or
the outside world.
Symptoms of Depression
Depression may affect
one's life in any of the following ways:
Changes in Feelings
and/or Perceptions
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Crying spells or, at the other extreme, lack of emotional
responsiveness.
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Inability to find pleasure in anything.
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Feelings of hopelessness and/or worthlessness.
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Exaggerated sense of guilt or self-blame.
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Loss of sexual desire.
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Loss of warm feelings toward family or friends.
Changes in Behavior and Attitudes
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Lack of interest in prior activities and withdrawal from others.
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Neglect of responsibilities and appearance.
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Irritability, complaints about matters previously taken in stride.
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Dissatisfaction about life in general.
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Impaired memory, inability to concentrate, indecisiveness, and
confusion.
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Reduced ability to cope on a daily basis.
Physical Complaints
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Chronic fatigue and lack of energy.
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Complete loss of appetite, or at the other extreme,
compulsive eating.
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Insomnia, early morning wakefulness, or excessive sleeping.
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Unexplained headaches, backaches, and similar complaints.
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Digestive problems including stomach pain, nausea, indigestion,
and/or change in bowel habits.
Causes of Depression
Depression is often the
result of an unhappy event such as the death of a loved one. When
the source of depression is readily apparent and the person is
fully aware of it, the individual can expect the reaction to
moderate and then fade away within a reasonable amount of time. In
cases where feelings of depression exist with no apparent source
or the source is unclear, the depression may get worse because the
person is unable to understand it. This sense of loss of control
may add to the actual feelings of depression.
Any number of stressors
may be involved in depression. These can include personality,
environmental, or biomedical factors. Shortages or chemical
imbalances in the brain may play a significant role in some cases
of depression. Such imbalances may be created by illness,
infections, certain drugs (including alcohol and even prescribed
medications) and improper diet and nutrition. In general,
depression may be viewed as a withdrawal from physical or
psychological stress. Identifying and understanding the underlying
causes of such stress is a necessary step in learning to cope with
depression.
Helping Yourself
Being honest with yourself
about changes in mood or the intensity of negative feelings as
they occur will help you identify possible sources of depression
or stress. You should examine your feelings and try to determine
what is troubling you -- relationships with family or friends,
financial responsibilities, and so forth. Discussing problems with
the people involved or with an understanding friend can sometimes
bring about a resolution before a critical stage of stress is
reached. Even mild depression should be dealt with if it
interferes with your effectiveness. You might also try to:
Change your normal routine
by taking a break for a favorite activity or something new-- even
if you don't feel like it;
Exercise to work off
tension, improve digestion, help you relax, and perhaps improve
your ability to sleep;
Avoid known stressors;
Avoid making long-term
commitments, decisions, or changes that make you feel trapped or
confined – it is better to put them off until you feel you are
better able to cope; and See a physician, especially if physical
complaints persist.
Helping a Depressed Friend
Since severely depressed
individuals can be very withdrawn, lethargic, self-ruminating, and
possibly suicidal, a concerned friend can provide a valuable and
possibly life-saving service. Talking candidly with the individual
regarding your concern for his or her well being will often bring
the problems out into the open.
As you talk with your
friend, the American College Health Association advises the
following:
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Do not try to “cheer
up” the individual.
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Do not criticize or
shame, as feelings of depression cannot be helped.
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Do not sympathize and
claim that you feel the same way as he or she does.
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Try not to get angry
with the depressed individual.
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Your primary objective is
to let the person know you are concerned and willing to help.
If feelings of depression
appear to turn to thoughts of suicide, urge the individual to seek
professional help. If the person resists such a suggestion and you
feel that suicide is likely – seek professional help yourself, so
you will know how to best handle the situation.
When Professional Help is
Necessary
Depression is treatable
and needless suffering of those who experience it can be
alleviated. A mental health professional should be consulted when
an individual experiences any of the following circumstances:
When pain or problems
outweigh pleasures much of the time;
When symptoms are so
severe and persistent that day-to-day functioning is
impaired;
When stress seems so
overwhelming that suicide seems to be a viable option
If you or someone you know needs help or if you would like more
information contact the Student Counseling Center .
Other information
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