College + You
Making time for YOU:
Why is it so hard to say 'no'?
If you’re going to mold yourself into College Material – achieving the Grades-Character-Leadership Trifecta it takes to gain admission – you’re going to have to take charge of your time and how you spend it. There are only so many hours in a week to balance your need to 1) sleep 2) study and 3) maintain healthy relations with your 1,638 FaceTime friends.
The art of the social "no"
Put off answering until later. Tell your friends you have a lot on your plate. You’ll need to “make some calls” to see if you can fit in one more activity.
And stop talking.
How to stay focused
Set your own agenda. This may sound dorky, but it helps: Every Sunday night, write down your top two priorities for the coming week. One week, it could be studying for a math test and spending time with your girlfriend. Another, you may decide to practice your free-throws and re-establish your special bond with Dr. Who. Make sure you stick to your priorities, and not someone else's.
Define your boundaries. If a friend is always asking you to drop everything when they need for a shoulder to cry on, you might need to have a little talk. Let them know that you want to be there for them, but you can't always do it on a moment’s notice.
Saying ‘no’ to the stuff that can get you in trouble*
Well, there's always, "No way, that stuff can get us in trouble!" But if you think stating the obvious is somehow less-than-cool, try these lines on for size:
Why talk to your teachers?
Have you ever spent hours and hours writing a paper, only to get a bad grade because you misunderstood the assignment? Then you’ve learned a universal truth. As George Bernard Shaw said, "The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place."